Sex: A Natural Gift for Life, Not Just Pleasure

The Central Thought- 

So today's Topic is -

Sex: A Natural Gift for Life, Not Just Pleasure

I strongly believe in this statement and would like to share the insights behind my belief. You may agree or disagree, and I welcome your suggestions.

Sexual desire & pleasure are one of the most discussed, fantasized, and misunderstood topics among youth. It becomes the Center of attention during adolescence, We often think of sex as a biological pleasure, something natural and spontaneous.

Yes, it is true that sexuality is biological. We all know that puberty naturally brings about desires, urges, and hormonal changes that drive us toward sexual exploration. This proves that there is a biological foundation.

But here is the key distinction: biological instinct exists in all animals, yet they only engage in sex for the purpose of reproduction. They don’t associate it with “pleasure” the way we humans do.

So why have we connected sex with pleasure?

The Role of Social Conditioning -

The answer is: we have conditioned ourselves that way. The physical drive may be natural, but the idea of pleasure — and how we derive it — is largely mental and socially constructed.

That is where the problem and confusion begin. The pleasure we feel is not entirely biological; it is a result of years of social conditioning, exposure, and emotional programming.

The Role of Conditioning in Sexual Pleasure- 

Let’s look at it deeply.

Right from childhood, we are constantly exposed to sexual imagery — in movies, magazines, music videos, adult content, and romantic novels. Our brain watches, absorbs, and learns the sequence of these expressions: how two people meet, get attracted, go on dates, become physically intimate, indulge in foreplay, and eventually have sex. We are shown the process, the fantasy, the emotions, and the climax, and we subconsciously absorb all of it.

Now, without realising, we try to imitate the same. Even our emotions.

We learn all romantic things & sexual acts from such content. We learn what gives “pleasure” and what doesn't. We follow the same script we’ve seen. The pleasure we feel is not purely biological, but based on what we’ve been trained to expect and feel.

But we forget to question:

Are these emotions truly ours?

Is this truly a natural emotion? 

Or is it just a reaction built from years of social programming? Or are they manufactured by repetitive exposure?

Even the feeling of happiness we derive during sexual acts—have we really chosen it consciously, or have we just been taught to enjoy it?

A Mental Experiment: 

What If There Was No Conditioning?

Let me offer you a thought experiment to understand this deeper.

Imagine a boy who has lived alone, completely isolated from society since birth, in a forest, like a primitive human. He has no knowledge of social norms, culture, clothing, language, shame, or sexual behaviour. He grows up purely with what nature gives him.

Now assume, By the time he turns 20, he reaches biological maturity. His body has developed all sexual hormones and instincts.

Now imagine placing him in a private space with a young female partner. No one instructs them. No prior knowledge. No exposure.

Will he react like us? 

Will he initiate foreplay? 

Will he understand the idea of intercourse?

Will he experience the same pleasure as a person conditioned by society?

Absolutely not. 

Most likely, he will be confused. He doesn’t even know what a woman is,what genitals are, what intimacy means, what arousal is, or what these bodily sensations mean. He might not even be able to perform sex properly, because he doesn’t know how it’s “supposed” to happen. 

He might touch, stare, feel awkward, or even run away. He might experience some natural arousal or erection, but not with the intent or clarity we have Because he has no mental map of sex like us.

This thought experiment highlights something very important - 

Biological instinct alone does not create pleasure. Pleasure is a product of mental conditioning.

So, What’s the Conclusion?

Both the isolated man and a socially conditioned man have the same biological traits.

Both have the biological capacity for sexual activity.

If sex was purely biological pleasure, both should have the same experience.

But clearly, they don’t. And this proves that sexual pleasure is not purely biological. It is a mental, emotional, and social construction.

We have learned to feel happy through sex. This learning, this conditioning, has made it an act of craving and desire. But in truth, nature gave it to us not for pleasure, but for continuity of life.

The Impact of Modern Conditioning - 

This brings us to the core idea, Nature never meant sex to be entertainment. It simply added some biological trigger as a reward — to ensure the survival of the species.

We have over-conditioned our minds. We have turned sex into a fantasy—something to chase, enjoy, and experiment with.

What we call pleasure is just a mental reward given by the brain to motivate reproduction. But we got addicted to that reward, and then built a whole emotional and social universe around it.

"If someone seeks sex purely for pleasure, without emotional or mental balance, they will keep running in an endless loop — from one partner to another, from fantasy to fantasy — always feeling something is missing. Lust is an endless fire. It never says "enough."

Such people eventually suffer — mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They are never satisfied. They feel anxious, empty, lost. They fall into depression, addiction, even suicidal thoughts. And all this because they misunderstood the purpose of this gift from nature.

We have also turned it into a product of entertainment. We made it a game of thrills. We even created laws and markets around it—such as pornography industries, sex toy businesses, erotic literature, escort services, virtual adult content platforms, and more.

These create a fantasy world that doesn’t reflect real relationships, love, or responsibility.

This false conditioning not only creates wrong habits in the brain, but it damages our emotional health and leads to frustration, addiction, and confusion. The brain learns to seek quick pleasure, which turns into a loop—like a drug.

The more we chase it, the more we crave it. But peace never comes. Because what we are chasing is not even meant for pleasure. Nature never intended it that way.

In this case, Animals act purely on instinct, without emotional or cultural complications like humans. They engage in sex only during mating seasons. They neither fantasise nor chase it. They live naturally and return to normal.

But we humans have made it a never-ending hunt.

The Wisdom of Our Ancients -

If we look back at our cultural and spiritual traditions, we find great wisdom.

Our Rishis and Saint followed strict Brahmacharya, not because sex is evil, but because they understood its power and purpose. Even as householders (Grihastha), they engaged in sex only for the right reason — to bring new life, not to indulge pleasure.

They used their sexual energy to create life, and the rest of their energy to seek truth, knowledge, and self-realisation.

This approach gave them balance, peace, and depth of character. They respected the natural gift, and didn't abuse it for shallow, short-lived joy.

In ancient India, sex was never a taboo,but neither was it glorified as fantasy. It was accepted, but respected. It was sacred — not hidden or polluted by lustful obsession. 

But under Western and modernity, we have modified it completely. We made it fashionable, trendy, and full of ego. That’s where we lost our roots.

A Message to the Youth -

Because of this damaging conditioning, many of our youth have made sexual pleasure the ultimate goal of life. Their time, energy, and even identities revolve around this desire. They focus on fashion, body image, flirting techniques, tips and tricks—all to attract attention and fulfill their fantasies. On social media, they consume endless lust-based and intimate content. This is dangerous, not just for the individual but for society. Families must protect their children from falling into this trap.

It is very important that young minds of schools and colleges understand this energy. Sex is a powerful force gifted by nature. But it comes with responsibility. You must use it only when you are emotionally, mentally, and financially capable of bringing a new life into the world and raising it.

If you use this power just for fun, curiosity, or thrill, you will fall into a never-ending trap. One relationship will not satisfy you. You’ll keep changing partners. Depression, mental illness, anxiety, and suicidal tendencies will follow.

So don’t let lust become your lifestyle. Recognize your power. Channel it with maturity. Respect what nature gave you.

Treat sex as a responsibility, not an experiment. That is the only way to live peacefully and contribute meaningfully to society.

If a young person truly understands this concept, he will form a more mature and meaningful relationship. He will start seeing the opposite person—not just as a body, but as a human being worthy of deep respect. A boy will look at a girl with dignity, not desire; and a girl will see a boy with trust, not fear. Emotionally and mentally, their bond will rise above just physical attraction. With such a mindset, both genders will support each other in life, help each other grow, and uplift society together.

Even if two mature person come together in a physical relationship, it will not be based on lust or just desire. It will come from a deeper place of trust, respect, emotional connection, and shared responsibility. This kind of relationship is higher and more meaningful than the fantasies we see today. In such understanding, intimacy is special—not because it is forbidden, but because it is mature, conscious, and full of love and trust. Also, when such people come together, they help each other grow and support one another to do good work professionally, socially, and for the country.

Final Thoughts: Honour the Gift

So I humbly request you all — see sex not as entertainment, not as excitement, not as personal experimentation. See it as a seed of life, a natural responsibility, a creative power.

Talk to the youth around you. Educate them. Explain that sex is not a trend, it is not freedom, it is not cool. It is a serious decis

ion meant to create life, and should only be done when you are ready for that life. Only then will you find peace, purpose, and wholeness.

Thanks.